Happy New Year?

I doubt it.

Since the last time I wrote Mum’s dementia has moved on a lot.

We received a call in early December that she had had another fall.

This time she was on the toilet and naked.

Her Fall Alert Wristband kicked in and a duty operator called an ambulance and gave then access to the house.

Her injuries were slight but her blood sugars and heart beat were (again) not good. They took her to the local hospital.

After we got the kids out to school I went to her house and was upset by what I found. An hour and three bowls of soapy water later the place seemed clean.

You do this sort of stuff for. Your kids but never, I repeat NEVER, envisage doing it for your Mum.

By the time we caught up with her in hospital she was on a ward.

True to form, she had no idea why she was there. I took a pic of her head so she could see the damage (heavy graze but no concussion).

They doubled her heart drug to slow her arrhythmia and pumped insulin in to lower her blood sugars.

At our insistence, just before Christmas she went into a Care Home for evaluation.

Because of the festive season that assessment hasn’t started yet.

Through all of this she has repeatedly cycled through her normal complaints of lost keys, purse, independence, abuse by hospital staff, and how much of a waste of. Time even being away from home is.

Her memory lasts for about two or three minutes now.

We’ve removed valuables from her house but are reluctant to get on with clearance until a final decision is made.

The folk at the care home can’t see her going home. She forgets she’s had meals and screams that she’s starving.

We took her flowers and she barely acknowledged us, falling asleep after a while.

Happy New Year? We’ll see.


2 thoughts on “Happy New Year?

  1. Hugs Dave.
    In the last years of grandma’s life, I remember cleaning her after a toilet mishap and thinking the same thought as you- you can clean your baby’s toilet mishap, but grandma ?

    Perhaps you’d consider an old age care Home for her.

    May you have the strength this year to deal with the curve balls.


  2. I am so so sorry you are here already at this point. It often takes a catastrophic fall/event to get hospital admission and then a good evaluation of where an old person’s capacity is at. I remember hoping that the nurses would get a clear view of how things were in a way the local GP and local nurses couldn’t with their short visits. It is about keeping the person safe and comfortable down this unfortunate decline. It i awful to see it happen to your loved ones – I feel for you having had to deal with the (literal) mess at her house. Fingers crossed the assessment is made sooner rather than later (Christmas and New Year slowed things down I recall last year). Make sure you vent. It is a lot to cope with.


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